Love and Marriage are two different things yet the same if we look really close. People who marry the person they love are lucky they say, but does this mean loving a person you marry is tough? What do you guys think?
Let’s try to understand this through a short story.
A curious student asks his teacher the following questions about love and marriage and the teacher explains him in the most beautiful way with perfect examples.
Student: Why often do people marry a different person than they fell in love with?
Teacher: In order to answer your question, you need to go to the wheat field and choose the best wheat and come back. But the rule is you can only go through the field once and cannot turn back to pick.
The student now very excited to find the best wheat went to the field, went through the first row, he saw one big wheat which he instantly liked. But he wondered that maybe there is a bigger wheat further. Then he saw another wheat which was bigger than the other two, but again he thought that maybe there is an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he started to realize that the wheat is not as big as the ones he let go off. He started to realize that he had left the big ones in search of the bigger ones.
So he ended up going back to the teacher with an empty hand because he just wasn’t able to forgive himself for letting go of the best wheat and described what happened.
Teacher: You kept looking for a better one while letting go of the best one and later when you realized that you have missed them, you were unable to go back.
‘This is the mistake often made by people who fell in love and lost the best person they could have in their life.’
Student: Does that mean one should never fall in love?
Teacher: No Dear, anyone can fall in love if they find a suitable person, just don’t keep waiting for the perfect person. Because nobody is perfect in the first place. And once you truly fall in love you must never let go of that person due to your ego, anger or comparison with others.
Student: But how do they end up marrying a person other than they loved?
Teacher: In order to answer this question, you need to go to the cornfield and choose the biggest corn and come back. And the rule is same as before, you can go through the field only once.
The student now went to the cornfield, this time he was very careful not to repeat the previous mistake again. When he reached to the middle of the field he picked one corn that he felt satisfied with and went back to the teacher. He described how he made a choice.
Teacher: This time you did not come empty hand. You looked for the one that is just nice and you had put your faith that this is the best one you could get. This is how one makes a choice for marriage.
The student stood confused. The teacher asked,
Teacher: What is bothering you now?
Student: I am wondering which one would have been better, marrying a person you love or loving a person you marry?
Teacher: It is a very easy answer, only if you are willing to admit it to yourself.
“Life is like a basket of fruits. Either you have to make a choice of eating the fruit you love or be content with something that is healthy.”
Choose wisely else you may have to spend your life wondering ‘what if…’ As long as you stay true and honest to yourself, you cannot go wrong with the two choices.